RCCG HOUSE FELLOWSHIP LEADERS’ MANUAL 3 JULY 2022

LESSON FORTY FOUR (44)

TOPIC: RE-IGNITING LOVE IN YOUR MARRIAGE

HOUSE FELLOWSHIP ANTHEM

1. I love this family of God,

So closely knitted into one,

They have taken me into their arms

And am so glad to be

A part of this great family

2. I bless this family of God,

So greatly prospered by the Lord,

They have taken me into their arms

And am so glad to be

A part of this great family

3. I know this family of God,

So deeply rooted in the word,

They have taken me into their arms

And am so glad to be

A part of this great family

4. I see this family of God,

So highly lifted above all,

They have taken me into their arms

And am so glad to be

A part of this great family

5. Come, join this family of God,

So highly favoured by the Lord,

They have taken me into their arms

And am so glad to be

A part of this great family.

 

OPENING PRAYER: Father, please let the love in my marriage be reignited in Jesus Name.

MEMORY VERSE: “Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.” 1 Corinthians 13:1

BIBLE TEXT: 1 CORINTHIANS 7:1-7

1. Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.

2. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

3. Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.

4. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

5. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

6. But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.

7. For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.

LESSON INTRODUCTION: Almost every marriage starts with a huge celebration, together with their family and friends, each couple is full of hopes and dreams for their future life together. But the road to a happy marriage is far from easy. And as today’s divorce statistics demonstrate that all is not well with many marriages.

It would be easy to blame our high rate of marital failure on things like not spending enough quality time together, allowing bitterness and resentment to build in our hearts and failing to keep communication lines open. There are lots of books, articles and seminars that tell us how to improve these and many other aspects of our relationships.

LEADER’S DIARY.

LESSON AIM: To teach members the importance of love in marriage.

TEACHING OBJECTIVES: At the end of the lesson, members should be able to:

i. Understand the place of love in marriage.

ii. Understand that any marriage that will last must be founded in true love

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TEXT REVIEW: 1 CORINTHIANS 7:1-7

i. To avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife and let every woman her own husband

ii. The husband’s body should satisfy the wife and the wife’s to satisfy the husband.

LESSON OUTLINES:

FEELING BITTERNESS AND RESENTMENT GROWING TOWARDS YOUR PARTNER

The answer is Love and Prayers. When was your last time you brought him or her before the Lord in prayer and truly thanked God for your relationship? Struggling to find quality time together? How about praying with your partner and asking God how he would like you to use your time?

As you begin to do these things, you will notice that your focus automatically starts to shift away from you and your desires and over to God and your partner. As a result, communication problems begins to improve, anger and resentment fade away and you naturally want to spend more time together. Of course, you can’t expect such changes to happen overnight.

Relationship is also bound to face financial pressures, child-rearing issues and other problems that are beyond our control. But if you commit your relationship to God and make a conscious decision each day to put God and your partner first, your marriage will be able to withstand any storm. Not only that; you will also have plenty of fun together along the way!

If our love and marriage is to be restored, Jesus must be invited.

HERE ARE SOME OF THE WAYS THAT JESUS CAN STRONGLY IMPACT OUR RELATIONSHIPS.

1. He gives us power to be Christ-like. Ephesians 3:16

2. He directs our lives on a daily basis Romans. 8:14

3. He convicts us of sin. John 16:8

4. He empowers us to fight sin in our lives. Galatians 5:15-16

5. He causes our marriages to glorify Christ. John 16:14

6. He produces the “fruit” of the Spirit in our lives; love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Galatians 5:22-23.

CONSIDER THESE STEPS THAT CAN LEAD YOUR MARRIAGE TOWARDS RENEWED SENSE OF INTIMACY:

1. Believe that God loves you and that He desires to walk with you in oneness through the power of the Holy Spirit.

2. Confess to God your utter dependency on the Holy Spirit for power. If there is any known sin in your life, confess it by agreeing with God that it is sin and is displeasing to Him.

3. Draw upon God’s power by faith and obedience. Begin walking by the Spirit in your daily life.

4. Admit You are powerless over your spouse and your marriage.

5. Put everything into the hands of God who alone can save us. 2 Corinthians 1:9

6. Pray for Your Spouse, Your Marriage and Yourself.

7. Begin to pray everyday for your spouse. Believe in God for a miracle in your marriage. Psalms 77:14, Matthew 9:29

8. Adjust your expectations.

9. Resist the enemy.

ACTIVITY:

i. Members should mention things that can cause the love in marriage to go cold

ii. Members should discuss or mention how to avoid or resolve the things mentioned.

SUMMARY: Love is the life of a marriage, when it is cold the marriage is cold and sickly, when it is hot the marriage is hot and healthy.

CONCLUSION: The source of all marital problems can be traced back to the Garden of Eden with creation’s first married couple. Genesis 1 and 2 tell us that Adam and Eve lived in perfect union with God, and with each other. Without fear or shame, they instinctively delighted themselves in creation, in each other and God.

PRAYER POINTS:

1. Thank God for keeping and upholding your marriage.

2. Father, please reign in my home in Jesus Name.

3. Father, please uphold Dad and Mum E. A. Adeboye in Jesus Name

4. Father, please uphold RCCG all over the world in Jesus Name.

5. Father, please re-ignite Your love in every home in Jesus Name.

GOLDEN DIETS:

MONDAY: 1 Corinthians 13:13. Love is the greatest gift.

TUESDAY: Proverbs 18:22. Your spouse is a good gift from God.

WEDNESDAY: Genesis 2:24. The two shall become one flesh.

THURSDAY: 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. Understand that love is patient and kind.

FRIDAY: 1 Peter 3:7. Always honour the weaker vessel.

SATURDAY: Colossians 3:14. Remember that love binds you together.

SUNDAY: 1 Peter 4:8. Keep loving earnestly and continously.