RCCG SUNDAY SCHOOL STUDENT’S MANUAL 20 JANUARY 2019 –SUCCESSFUL PARENTING

RCCG SUNDAY SCHOOL STUDENT’S MANUAL 20 JANUARY 2019 –SUCCESSFUL PARENTING

*SUNDAY SCHOOL HYMN*

*1.* O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
O how I love Thee well,
I am happy, it makes me glad
To rejoice at Thy birth.

*2.* O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Thy friendship suits me well,
Both young and old will sing Thy song,
We long for Sunday School.

*3.* O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Christ was Thy first teacher,
The Holy Spirit, great teacher,
Does manifest in thee.

*4.* O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
This testimony is sure,
That God, the Father Almighty,
Poured His blessing on Thee.

*5.* O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Though the sun be so bright,
Or if the clouds be black with rain,
I’ll be in Sunday School.

*6.* O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
I rejoice to see Thee,
Will thou pass over me today?
Without my being blest?

MEMORY VERSE: “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath; but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord”. Eph. 6:4

BIBLE PASSAGE: 1Samuel 2:12-27; 29-30

1 Samuel:2.12
Now the sons of Eli [were] corrupt; they did not know the LORD.
1 Samuel:2.13
And the priests’ custom with the people [was that] when any man offered a sacrifice, the priest’s servant would come with a three-pronged fleshhook in his hand while the meat was boiling.
1 Samuel:2.14
Then he would thrust [it] into the pan, or kettle, or caldron, or pot; and the priest would take for himself all that the fleshhook brought up. So they did in Shiloh to all the Israelites who came there.
1 Samuel:2.15
Also, before they burned the fat, the priest’s servant would come and say to the man who sacrificed, “Give meat for roasting to the priest, for he will not take boiled meat from you, but raw.”
1 Samuel:2.16
And [if] the man said to him, “They should really burn the fat first; [then] you may take [as much] as your heart desires,” he would then answer him, “[No,] but you must give [it] now; and if not, I will take [it] by force.”
1 Samuel:2.17
Therefore the sin of the young men was very great before the LORD, for men abhorred the offering of the LORD

1 Samuel:2.29
‘Why do you kick at My sacrifice and My offering which I have commanded [in My] dwelling place, and honor your sons more than Me, to make yourselves fat with the best of all the offerings of Israel My people?’
1 Samuel:2.30
“Therefore the LORD God of Israel says: ‘I said indeed [that] your house and the house of your father would walk before Me forever.’ But now the LORD says: ‘Far be it from Me; for those who honor Me I will honor, and those who despise Me shall be lightly esteemed.

INTRODUCTION:
Parents have the duty to raise their children in love. God expects parents to bring up children who will love Him, live for Him and make positive impacts In the world. Deut. 6:5-7.

While there are different styles of parenting in the world, believers should note that successful parenting is achievable. Read – Open Heaven 20 January 2019

LESSON OUTLINES
1. Different parenting styles
2. God’s style of parenting

DIFFERENT PARENTING SYTLES

PARENTING LOVE DISCIPLINE
STYLES
1. Permissive High Fearful
2. Uninvolved Low Low
3. Authoritarian Low High
4. Influential High High

FELLOWSHIP
1. Permissive Fearful
2. Uninvolved Forsaken
3. Authoritarian. Fighting
4. Influential Friendly

The Permissive Parents:

This types of parents may give verbal comments to their children, but will take little or no action to correct them when they misbehave.

Such parents usually equate discipline with meanness. They give in to most of the desires of their children.

Eli, the priest , and Samson’s parents are biblical examples of permissive parents. (1Sam. 2:12-17: 29-30; Judges 13:1-2; 14:1-3).

The Uninvolved Parents:

Such parents are self-oriented and they neglect their responsibilities. They have little or no time to attend to their children but rather pursue other concerns of life like career, business, ministry, pleasure etc. Read – Rccg Fasting Prayer Points 20 January 2019

They show little or no concern for well-being of their children and hardly communicate with them. King David and Samuels were examples. (1King 1:5-6; 2Sam. 2:14:28; 1Sam. 8:1-5)

The Authoritarianism Parents

They run home with authority (iron fist) Children in such home have no voice or input whatsoever. That are “to be seen and not to be heard”.

An authoritarian parent will use anger and harsh discipline to keep control. This behaviour may frustrate or causes the child to lose heart and lack self-esteem.(Col. 3:21)
King Saul was an example. (1Sam. 20:30).

The Influential Parents

The parents combine love and discipline without compromising either. They have clear boundaries but also very loving
Children brought up in such homes are usually happy capable and successful.

Mordecai, the adoptive parent of Esther. (Esther 2:1-10), Timothy’s mother and grandmother (2Tim.1:5-7; 3:14-15) are examples of influential parents in the bible.

GOD’S STYLE OF PARENTING

God, as the father of all, has clearly shown us the example of how to successfully raise our children. We need to follow in His footsteps.

The Father loves and wants us to be involved with His children (Jer. 31:3; John15:15; 16:27). He communicates clear instructions for us to follow(Pro. 4:3-4).
He forgives and show mercy when we fail(Heb. 8:12).

He disciplines and corrects us when we disobey and rebel against Him(Pro. 3:12; Heb.12:7).

The Father models the truth (John13:15) He encourages and comforts us. (1Thess. 2:11-12). He protects us from harm. (Heb. 11:23). He provides for His children. (Ps. 78: 23-25; 2Cor. 12:14).

CONCLUSION
Parents need to be careful not to either be extremely legalistic or
permissive. God’s pattern of parenting is balanced by His love, affirmation and grace.

QUESTIONS
1. Explain two parenting styles.
2. What lessons can we learn from God’s style?